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The quiet gap on the stage
I was at a small local gig not long ago, nursing a warm drink and pretending I was there purely for the music, not the people watching. You know the scene. Fairy lights, a slightly sticky floor, that hopeful hush before the first chord.
Then I noticed the lineup. Talented, varied, full of heart. And yet, once again, it was mostly blokes.
It is not that women are not writing songs, producing beats, running sessions, grafting in rehearsal rooms, or hauling kit up narrow stairs. They are. They just do not always get the same invitations, the same introductions, the same handy little leg up that looks like luck from the outside.
If we want fair chances for women in the music industry, we have to get comfortable talking about who gets seen, who gets booked, and who gets listened to.
Community over competition
The best thing I have watched happen in music is women quietly opening doors for other women. A quick message offering a support slot. A producer recommendation. A nudge towards a funding pot. A lift home after a late set when the world feels a bit too big.
Mentorship does not need to be formal. Sometimes it is just saying, “I have been there. Ask me anything.”
Collaboration helps too. You trade ideas, you swap strengths, you laugh at the bits that are not working yet. And in rooms like that, creative confidence grows. Not because everyone is perfect, but because everyone feels safe enough to try.
If you have ever felt awkward at music networking events, you are not alone. Turn up anyway. Go with a goal that is simple, like meeting one person and learning one thing. Then leave before you start overthinking it.
Done beats perfect, most days
There is a myth that you should wait until your track is flawless before releasing it. To be honest, that is how songs end up trapped on hard drives, like little birds that never learn to fly.
Put it out. Share the demo. Post the clip. Play the song live even if the bridge still makes you sweat.
Mistakes are part of the craft. Audiences do not fall in love with polish as much as they fall in love with feeling. When people engage, comment, sing along, or send you a message saying your lyrics hit them right in the chest, that matters more than a spotless take.
Consistency is not about churning out noise. It is about letting people walk with you, bit by bit.
Keep the spark alive
Long term creativity needs feeding. That means protecting music and arts education, because the next wave of writers and performers are often sitting in classrooms right now, waiting for a teacher, an instrument, or a chance.
It also means being kind. Properly kind. The person who seems confident might be struggling in private. Ask for help when you need it. Offer help when you can. This industry can be dazzling, but it can also be lonely.
If you want support with live performance, songwriting, recording, or shaping a set that feels like you, Yasmin Music & Events is worth knowing about, so have a look here and take the next step this week.
